No pun intended. I totally didn’t mean for this post to go live so close to turkey day but it happened so we’re going with it. I’d also like to point out that I’m not by any means trying to say that this whole situation is easy for him. I’m strictly giving you my point of view.
It’s no secret around these parts that I’m in the middle of getting a divorce. Nice way to spend the holidays right? WRONG! I’m not going to sit here and yet again say it’s mutual. I didn’t want this. He was unhappy. Yes, we tried to fix things, but it hit the point where everything we were both willing to try had been tried and he was still unhappy and wanted to end things so I said “ok… if that’s really what you want.” I guess that is when things became “mutual” if you want to look at it that way.
Anyway, on to my point.. Next Monday will mark exactly one month since he moved out and I’m still having a hard time not texting or calling him unless it’s needed. Obviously there are still things to figure out that require talking. What I’m talking about right now are the random, “how is your day going?” or “stay warm, it’s freezing outside” text messages – or calling just to hear his voice. I’m thanking God for the fact that I happened to have a voice mail he left me over a year ago saved on my phone. Oh yeah, I’ve become that person! The person that listens to a voice mail over and over just to hear someone’s voice. I know that makes me sound like a crazy person but don’t commit me just yet – give me a few months to work through it on my own.
This is exactly why I said that marrying your best friend is a great idea until you find yourself without them. I’m pretty sure I’m driving all my friends insane because I text them so that I wont text him. So here is my question for any of you that have been in my shoes… How do you just quit cold turkey? How do you go days without talking to someone that you’ve spent the last eight years talking to every day?