Yesterday morning my favorite country music DJs were talking about a new app called Hey Vina. Apparently it’s like Tinder but for making new friends. It might seem kind of weird but if you just moved to a new city where you don’t really know anyone, it’s not a horrible idea. I’m not promoting this app, because I haven’t even tried it. However, the conversation got me thinking about the fact that I really haven’t made any friends since moving to the big city.
Don’t get me wrong, I have met lots of Ben’s friends and I get along with them great. I just don’t see myself going out to do things with them without him. In my opinion there are two reasons behind this. First, I’m not a very outgoing person when it comes to meeting new people. We’ve talked about my social problems a bit on here but for those of you that are new, I have a hard time meeting new people. The anxiety leading up to the situation is often enough to keep my from doing it. I’d must rather hang out at home and watch Netflix than have to go out and meet new people. Even when Ben is with me, it can be physically exhausting to the point that I have to fight to stay awake in the car on the way home.
Second, I’m only in town Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I get home on Thursday in time to eat dinner, watch some TV and then go to bed because I’m exhausted. There’s something about driving for two hours that exhausts me. Then I spend most of Friday cleaning house and doing laundry while Ben is at work. Saturday and Sunday we spend time together. There have been a couple Saturdays that he had to work and I found myself with cabin fever. I wanted to go out to lunch or go shopping but those things are better done with friends.
I think I have put it off because I have amazing friends in the Tri-Cities. I try to see then while I’m in town for work so what’s so wrong with hanging out by myself when I’m home on the weekends. We’ve talked about them coming up for a day trip some Saturday so we could hang out or do wedding stuff and I really hope that happens. I love the area that I live now and I really want to share it with him.
I found a local blogger group on Facebook and am meeting with some of them at the end of February for coffee. Even that I waited to schedule until my blog, turned real life, friend Jennifer will be in town to go with me. My hope is that after that coffee break I will feel comfortable enough to meet up with them for lunch all my by myself. Yes, I know I sound like a toddler who doesn’t want to go to kindergarten.
Have you been new to town and found it hard to make new friends? What did you do?
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